I know you think life has been unfair, and its completely allright to think that way. It seems that you were promised for something and was given something totally different. This was not meant to happen to me…what did i do to deserve this…all these questions and some more.
The overwhelming emotions, the hurt, the anger and the pain, it will not go away overnight, but it will fade and will become bearable. It is absolutely OK to cry your heart out for the loss of the child that you always wanted, but trust me, time is the greatest healer. You might feel different now but eventually you’ll come to terms with this and then you’ll realize that its not as bad as u thought…
Your child will do everything that a normal child would do but at his own pace. He might not become a rocket scientist but he can become a lot of things in given circumstances. The times are changing so is the attitude of people. For every person who’d look through your child, pretending he is invisible. There would be lots who’d stop and shake his hand.So its upto u to decide which way to look. I have learnt from my experience that the more I treat my daughter like a normal child, the more she is treated the same way by other people.
The help that we can get these days in terms of therapies, new researches, books, technology can make a remarkable difference in our children’s lives. My daughter can operate a laptop and an ipad independentely and she has just turned 5. We could’ve not thought of it few years ago, so things are changing for good.
The last thing I would like to say is “to have a life of your own”. Do something that makes you happy because a happy parent can make the family happy. The job that you’ve been given is going to be extremely demanding, frustrating and most of the times exhausting, But if you have a set of friends that you can talk to, a hobby or something that can get you some time for yourself, this journey would become easier and rewarding. So if you think you’ve cried enough and now want to move on. Welcome, we all are there to help you out. There are wonderful parents out there wanting to talk to you and help you. Gather yourself, look into your baby’s eyes, kiss her and be ready to take up the challenge…..all the best.
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